Why I Ask Men for Advice

Why I Ask Men for Advice

Who’s opinion are you usually seeking when asking for advice? As a female myself, this is not to degrade my own gender, but to rather give an insight on my personal experience with receiving successful advice and opinions, some that have helped strengthen my strategic and logical thinking today. It’s important to understand who we are asking for opinions, because often times, many people have a personal bias and this will cloud their ability to answer with clarity and truth. So here is why I typically ask my close male friends for advice… Continue reading “Why I Ask Men for Advice”

Take Accountability for your Actions

Take Accountability for your Actions

Up until the end of 2017, I blamed others for what happened to me. If I was late, it was because there was too much traffic, not because I didn’t leave early enough to account for that traffic. If I forgot something, it was because someone else didn’t remind me. If someone misunderstood me, it was because they weren’t smart enough to understand me, not because I didn’t clarify the confusion. But all of this…sounds so selfish, doesn’t it?

Nearly one year ago, my approach to life completely changed. In essence, I guess I can say I also changed…a lot. It was a simple decision to take full accountability for everything that happened in my life, even if it wasn’t “fully” my fault, because well…why would I want someone else to have control over my outcome? Did you ever consider that thought? Continue reading “Take Accountability for your Actions”

Controlling Our Emotions and Reactions

Controlling Our Emotions and Reactions

Recently I was featured on a beautiful female community website (www.astoldbywomen.com) with this article and the quote they used from me as the main reference had many people commenting on the topic or asking me about it. I love the concept and understanding of why it’s important to control our emotions because I’ve personally invested a lot of research into understanding how emotions dictate our energy and mind.  Continue reading “Controlling Our Emotions and Reactions”

My Advice to Incoming College Freshmen

My Advice to Incoming College Freshmen

So it’s almost the end of June and that means two more months till all recently graduated high school seniors head off to their first year of the “best four years of their life”. This topic is something I wish I could’ve told myself prior to beginning college, but as a rising college Senior, I am glad I have the knowledge now to share with those who are about to begin a new journey in their life.

For most of us, we typically live and grow up in the same hometown from the minute we were born. We have attended elementary, middle school, and high school with most of the same people and it has always felt comfortable. But now, most of you will embark on a journey in a completely new environment, perhaps even a new state like I did, surrounded by completely different people. I will admit, when I was 18, I didn’t really give this a second thought because I truly felt ready for this change in lifestyle and environment. However, there are a few things I wish I could have kept in mind as I entered this new reality and I’ll explain why. Continue reading “My Advice to Incoming College Freshmen”

Why I Value Individuality

Why I Value Individuality

Growing up as an Asian American in a predominantly Caucasian community, I already felt an instant difference in individuality based on physical looks. To enhance (or distinguish) my individuality even more, I grew up training and competing in the sport of figure skating, and later on adding competitive tennis to my regime.

Essentially, I was a completely “different” type of girl. Not only was I not Caucasian like everyone else, but I didn’t really participate in any “normal” sports like soccer and lacrosse. Although, I had a great run during my middle school years being on the varsity field hockey and track team. For anyone that is curious, I really loved both sports and if I wasn’t so involved with my two other sports, I would have continued both activities in high school and potentially college. (I ran the 200m and 4×4 relay in track, shoutout to my brother for training me into a wild athlete those years) Regardless, I stood out pretty easily to my peers, which essentially forced me to stand alone as a complete individual at times.  Continue reading “Why I Value Individuality”