How to Choose Friends Wisely

How to Choose Friends Wisely

“You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” 

A quote I’m sure many of us have heard or seen before. For me, I kind of live by this, in a sense of how I choose my friends and how often I am around certain types of people. Similarly to choosing a significant other, it’s important to kind of have this “check list” of traits you want in a friend…because why would you want to settle for anything less?  Continue reading “How to Choose Friends Wisely”

My Advice to Incoming College Freshmen

My Advice to Incoming College Freshmen

So it’s almost the end of June and that means two more months till all recently graduated high school seniors head off to their first year of the “best four years of their life”. This topic is something I wish I could’ve told myself prior to beginning college, but as a rising college Senior, I am glad I have the knowledge now to share with those who are about to begin a new journey in their life.

For most of us, we typically live and grow up in the same hometown from the minute we were born. We have attended elementary, middle school, and high school with most of the same people and it has always felt comfortable. But now, most of you will embark on a journey in a completely new environment, perhaps even a new state like I did, surrounded by completely different people. I will admit, when I was 18, I didn’t really give this a second thought because I truly felt ready for this change in lifestyle and environment. However, there are a few things I wish I could have kept in mind as I entered this new reality and I’ll explain why. Continue reading “My Advice to Incoming College Freshmen”

Why I Value Individuality

Why I Value Individuality

Growing up as an Asian American in a predominantly Caucasian community, I already felt an instant difference in individuality based on physical looks. To enhance (or distinguish) my individuality even more, I grew up training and competing in the sport of figure skating, and later on adding competitive tennis to my regime.

Essentially, I was a completely “different” type of girl. Not only was I not Caucasian like everyone else, but I didn’t really participate in any “normal” sports like soccer and lacrosse. Although, I had a great run during my middle school years being on the varsity field hockey and track team. For anyone that is curious, I really loved both sports and if I wasn’t so involved with my two other sports, I would have continued both activities in high school and potentially college. (I ran the 200m and 4×4 relay in track, shoutout to my brother for training me into a wild athlete those years) Regardless, I stood out pretty easily to my peers, which essentially forced me to stand alone as a complete individual at times.  Continue reading “Why I Value Individuality”

The Beauty in Delayed Gratification

The Beauty in Delayed Gratification

This topic is honestly something I am truly very invested in. In other words, I have taken a lot of time in shifting from my previous need or desire for “instant gratification” into this new long-term appreciation and patience for “delayed gratification”. As you can likely tell, this goes very hand-in-hand with a long-term type of mindset.

I will say, that I believe my generation, the millennial generation is the epiphany of desire and practically need instant gratification. I attribute a lot of this to social media–I mean with all the platforms we have, Instagram, Snapchat, IG and Snap stories, etc. we can always see what others are up to in that instant and hell, we will often post to these platforms ourselves with what we are doing exactly in that moment. I mean even I fucking do it, but not for personal reasons. Everything in this digital age and space is so instant that it has cultivated a mindset of less patience and discipline in this millennial generation. I’ll give a few examples of what I mean. Continue reading “The Beauty in Delayed Gratification”